سْمِ ٱللَّٰهِ ٱلرَّحْمَٰنِ ٱلرَّحِيمِ,
To the mother who scrolls through social media looking at other mums with the perfect monotone house, large pantries and hoover marks on the carpet -whilst her wall is covered in crayon marks and her living room looks like a classroom.
To the mother who watches other mums on Instagram present a five-course delicious, nutritious, healthy, sugar-free, fat-free, nourishing meal to their family after she has just given her children fish fingers, chips and a fruit shoot.
To the mother on Snapchat watching other mothers snap being back at the gym with their shiny, glossy toned abs, looking like they have not even given birth whilst she looks down at her love handles, rolls and stretchmarks.
To the mother on Facebook looking at other mothers who travel the world with their children whilst she can’t take her kids to the local supermarket without three tantrums and an argument.
Social Media is NOT
Mothers, be good to yourself. Don’t doubt your parenting. Every mother has her own unique story and social media only shows you the good parts of that story. Most of us other mums are exactly like you. Most of us other mums do not go to the gym. Most of us do not travel the world or have houses that look like showrooms. Most of us are just about getting on day by day just like you are.
We all have our struggles, yet we all have our strengths.
Don’t focus on what you are NOT doing. Focus on your achievements.
- You took care of your kids today and they all went to sleep fed, watered and happy,
- You woke up exhausted today and you just got on with what you had to and you did it.
- Your kids love you and there is nowhere else they would rather be than at home with you.
- No one else can do what you do the way you do it.
So to all the young mothers, single mothers, working mothers, adoptive mothers, grandmothers, exhausted mothers, breastfeeding mothers, stay-at-home mothers, sleep-deprived mothers and all other mothers out there;
Give yourself more credit.
Don’t worry about what other mothers are doing and always remember;
Motherhood is NOT a competition!
So if you came to this article to find out how to be the best mum you can be – then you probably already are. Just keep doing what you’re doing!